Why being “alone” is better than being with the wrong person ⋆ LonerWolf

“I’d rather be respectfully single than be in a relationship that requires me to sacrifice my self-esteem.” – Mandy Hale

I’m sure you’re aware that the World Health Organization has declared loneliness a “global health problem.”

It’s old news, but the phrase “loneliness epidemic” hangs in the air like a dark cloud for many, including me.

what i dislike About this term he can taints loneliness with the fear of being alone.

He portrays loneliness as a disease to be treated rather than inviting deeper exploration. WHY Most of us feel lonely at first. (Perhaps the last stage of capitalism and the erosion of our society due to social media and sociopathic organizations? Ding Ding Ding!)

In many ways, trying to avoid being alone (and part of the “loneliness epidemic”) can lead us to want to stay longer in unhealthy relationships, friendships, and social connections. This is how we avoid being alone. Avoid being “just another statistic”.

We have a collective fear of being alone, fueled by terms like the “loneliness epidemic” and perhaps the enforced isolation of the COVID era.

But I’m here to encourage you choose loneliness rather than staying in a dead, abusive or abusive relationship.

Sometimes loneliness is the better of two evils – the price you pay for not betraying yourself and listening to what your heart and soul really need.

Sometimes loneliness is a crisis that you need to open the world of new opportunities that are on the horizon. The only catch is that you need it walking alone.

When faced with an empty, manipulative, or emotionally vampiric relationship, choosing solitude is an act of self-sovereignty. This is to restore your inner strength. This is a confirmation of your deep strength.

It is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. Better than holding on to something that died years ago.

Because there is always an “opportunity cost” here. By choosing someone else’s company, you are giving up a deeper and more respectful relationship with yourself.

So ask yourself, what are you willing to sacrifice here?

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These reflections are short, but I hope they have given you some valuable insight or food for thought.

“Choosing” to be alone in the face of abuse is often easier said than done. Check these out if you need help domestic violence hotlines.

If you’re thinking about leaving or ending a relationship or friendship, I hope you’ll be able to make a decision based on what you’re doing. love self-respect rather than fear.

Tell me, at what point did you know that being alone is better than being with someone? Share your biggest red flag with me by leaving a comment below. I will read and try to answer as many answers as I can!